The Flawed Healer

I don’t believe that you have to be enlightened or healed or deconditioned to be a good healer.

There are so many conversations I’ve had with people over the years who felt that I helped them so much through their crises or challenges, even when I was in my own lowest points or even when my life was nowhere close to appearing healthy.

• My clients benefit from my empathy and understanding because I’ve been there, my 10+ years in my healing from C-PTSD.

• I teach and personally understand that healing or transformation isn’t a quick fix, trust me, sometimes it’s like 2 steps forward and 5 steps back, or at least it feels that way.

• My own healing and liberation is actually through healing others, like the wounded healer archetype - Chiron.

The perfect human doesn’t exist, that doesn’t mean we can’t help each other.

If you are feeling like you are looking for a perfect healer to be your role model, or you get disappointed that there is an imperfection or flaw you discover about your guru/ guide/ coach, maybe you are looking for the easy way out and surrendering your powers to the wrong places. You are giving up your autonomy, and responsibility to lead your own life into healing. No one else can find all of the answers for you. If there is anything to surrender to, it is higher powers, and to your relationship to them.

Here’s the TikTok video I was inspired by:

@_gretchensworld_Dont let you therapist trick you into beleiving they have it all figured out #therapytiktok #therapytok #momtok #messylife #healing #hudsonvalley #flowerfarmer #therapist

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I am NOT saying that you won’t benefit from people who have life experience, values, habits that you can learn from. People who are older than you or who have less triggers than you, or who seem to have a healthier marriage than you, or who eat healthier than you, etc.

There may be amazing benefits for you if you follow others’ healthy habits - but I do believe that you have to find your own way. Human Design is the science of differentiation after all.

I’m not here to have a one-way monologue to tell you what the textbooks say. I want to have a conversation with you where you tell me stories and I tell you some of mine. I want to use my life experience beyond my studies of Human Design to support you and offer you my gifts, beyond my knowledge.

Sending you much empowerment so you can lead your own life as you see fit!!

EDIT: I realise now that this is very much related to my open G-centre (more on that in this episode), seeking someone who is perfect to emulate, because it'd be easier.

But that meant I wasn't building myself up, empowering myself or learning how to live MY life in accordance to my unique design, traits, gifts, orientations, or life purpose.

I was surrendering my power. And as a Human Design reader, I'm not interested in keeping you away from your sovereign power, I'm trying to help you build it up.